Ohhhh, childbirth. The most painful, yet the most wonderful thing you will ever experience in your life. I spent months researching everything I possibly could about having a baby, but I never really had anyone tell me the extent of what you go through after the baby actually makes their way into the world. Well, wonder no more ladies- here are 7 things no one told me about having a baby.
- Your birth may not go how you always dreamed, and that’s okay. I went into the hospital thinking that I would be induced and a few hours later I would be holding my baby. Most people know that it didn’t quite happen like that, (you can read about it all here), but it is still MY birth experience and I will cherish those memories forever.
- The hair loss. I knew you lost hair postpartum, but nothing…NOTHING prepared me for the amount of hair you actually lose. Handfuls of hair might come out when you shower, and if you’re lucky enough- you’ll have bald spots! Nothing like bald spots on either sides of your temples to really boost your self esteem after having a baby. One day your baby hairs will grow back, and you will have no choice but to rock bangs that you had in kindergarten when you decided a DIY haircut was a good idea.
- You will never do jumping jacks without peeing ever again. Or jumping of any kind really. Go to the bathroom before doing any sort of strenuous activity. Trust me on this one.
- Mom brain is real. Baby brain is real. Pregnancy brain is real. Want to know what is also real? The crazy hormones. You cry, then you laugh, then you cry. The emotional rollercoaster in those first few weeks is a doozy, hold on tight.
- Breastfeeding is HARD. Your nipples will crack, and they might even bleed. I cried for hours and hours when we first came home from the hospital because I was in so much pain; if you are dealing with this- have your baby checked for ties! Breastfeeding is a commitment, it can be stressful, and it can be painful….but it does get better! Keep chugging along, and don’t ever compare your pre-pregnancy boobs to what you’re working with now. Really, don’t do it.
- You may have hemorrhoids. You also may be dealing with them for months and months after you give birth. If your baby is a few months old and you think you skated by without them, don’t get cocky. Someone I know decided to brag about her lack of hemorrhoids and the next day- BOOM rhoids. Hint: I am someone. Don’t brag.
- You will remember all of the times you didn’t take a nap, and wish you could go back and take that nap. You will be tired. Eventually your baby will figure out that bedtime is not in the middle of the day, and someday you will get a little sleep. Just a little.
One piece of advice I can give to all you mamas with those brand new babies at home: Take it one day at a time. Becoming a mom is so hard, and it is the biggest (and best) change of your life. In the beginning, nap when they nap. No one gives a shit if your dishes are done. NAP! Give yourself a break, give your body a break, and soak in all of that amazing newborn smell and newness. Loss of all bladder control is one small price to pay for all of the love in the world.